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Two Lives

Two Lives

The political world was rocked earlier this week when a draft majority opinion, the authenticity of which was subsequently confirmed by the Chief Justice, was leaked to the press.  For those of us in the legal community, any leak from SCOTUS would have been stunning, but a leak on this case, which may upend 49 years of court precedent set by Roe v Wade, was earth shattering.

The pro-life and pro-abortion camps responded swiftly, with either immense joy or apoplectic rage.  I am firmly in the pro-life camp.  I learned of the leaked opinion Monday night at the Alpha Pregnancy Care Center annual fundraising banquet, one of many crisis pregnancy centers across Kentucky.  Moments from the banquet’s conclusion I saw the news break and handed my phone to our keynote speaker; he promptly walked back on stage and in words broken by tears of joy, read the headline to the crowd which responded with a standing ovation.  That moment is one I won’t soon forget.

A room of several hundred people from various faiths stood in united in celebration of the news that a court-made doctrine resulting in the deaths of tens of millions of unborn children may finally be overturned.  Apart from the incalculable human tragedy it brought forth, Roe was poorly decided and wrongly established the “history and tradition” of abortion in our nation prior to 1973.  Even one of the greatest defenders of abortion rights, Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg, once described Roe as “breathtaking.”

In short, Justice Alito’s draft opinion argues the decision to permit, limit, or prohibit abortion is one that should be left to the elected representatives of the people, not the Courts.  Justice Alito is right.

Quick to criticize Kentucky’s Republican legislature about their position on abortion, the media has adopted popular references to “anti” abortion legislation and abandoning the “pro-life” label we know is the truth.  We vote to limit abortion, and some of us want it banned outright, because we believe there are two lives that must be considered. It is grotesque to perform horrific procedures on a human being that cannot speak for or defend itself. That precious life did not choose under what circumstances it was created, and it should not be murdered by another.  The post-abortive women I’ve spoken to also share their feelings of guilt, shame and emotional trauma they endure having made the decision to end their own child’s life.  Abortion kills one life, and permanently scars another.

Neither the degree of development, nor one’s dependence upon another, has a bearing on one’s right to live. Many argue Republicans only care for lives in the womb, but once they’re born, we lose interest; this theory is as false as it is lazy.  Kentucky Republicans have enhanced our child welfare, foster care and adoption systems, led the nation in restoring dignity for expectant mothers in prison, prioritized mothers in substance use treatment centers, and improved mental health supports and made time for children to start the day with a healthy breakfast in schools,

We can and should do more.  Women and families facing crisis pregnancies, particularly those with low income, need more help, including prenatal and postnatal care.  Adoption should be exceedingly cheap and simple. Biological fathers should also be held more accountable. Kentucky has nearly 9,000 children in foster care today that need loving, permanent homes. Beyond government, each of us should show love and grace to women facing unplanned pregnancies, and those who have already made that life-altering decision. Many women seeking abortions are doing so because they fear the judgment or abuse from their loved ones, school, community, and sadly, even their church.

While we work to make life easier for expecting moms and dads with funding, education and job opportunities, we should always protect the precious lives who cannot speak for themselves.  Protecting those lives is challenging, and for some mothers, carrying the child may be emotionally and physically challenging.  That demands more from us as neighbors, loved ones, and as government leaders, to lighten the burden an unplanned pregnancy creates.  We should never resort to killing an innocent life to do so.  

Child Welfare Oversight and Advisory Committee

Child Welfare Oversight and Advisory Committee

Over the course of the 2017 interim period a bipartisan working group of House members met several times to hear from stakeholder groups about issues related to Kentucky’s adoption and foster care processes.  I was fortunate to “audit” some of those meetings as an interested member of the Senate.  When the 2018 session began the working group’s end product became House Bill 1, which ultimately passed one vote short of unanimously.

HB1 contained a number of critical changes to the child welfare process for foster care and adoption, including imposing new timelines and restrictions to prevent cases from lingering overlong on court dockets and getting stranded in the inboxes of the state’s bureaucracy.  The bill also creates a new Child Welfare Oversight and Advisory Committee and I am honored to be named as a member by the Senate President:

Commonwealth of Kentucky
Office of Senator Whitney Westerfield

For Immediate ReleaseJune 8, 2018

Contact: John Cox

John.Cox@LRC.KY.GOV

Senate President Stivers appoints Senate Judiciary Chairman Whitney Westerfield to the Child Welfare Oversight and Advisory Committee

FRANKFORT, Ky. (June 8, 2018) – Kentucky Senate President Robert Stivers announced Thursday the appointment of Senator Whitney Westerfield (R-Hopkinsville) to the  Child Welfare Oversight and Advisory Committee. The newly-formed committee was created in statute with the recent passage of House Bill 1 from the 2018 Legislative Session.

House Bill (HB) 1 gives more rights to foster parents by cutting red tape and reducing regulatory burdens associated with adopting a child in Kentucky. The Child Welfare Oversight and Advisory Committee was created by HB 1 to review, analyze, and provide oversight on child welfare, including but not limited to foster care, adoption, and child abuse, neglect, and dependency.

“As an adoptive parent, I understand the challenges and anxieties associated with Kentucky’s adoption process,” Senator Westerfield said. “I look forward to applying my experience in the courtroom and as the Senate Judiciary Committee chairman to the child welfare process where too often children fall through the cracks. I was proud to carry House Bill 1 in the Senate, I am proud to serve on this committee, and I am anxious to get to work to further improve our adoption and foster care programs in the Commonwealth.”

A meeting schedule for the Child Welfare Oversight and Advisory Committee is expected to be announced in the near future. For more information on the committee, please visit http://www.lrc.ky.gov/committee/statutory/SWOAC/home.htm. For the full text of HB 1, please visit http://www.lrc.ky.gov/record/18RS/HB1.htm.

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National Infertility Awareness Week

National Infertility Awareness Week

This morning, my wife put up an encouraging post on Facebook to celebrate National Infertility Awareness Week and I simply had to share it here:

This picture is much more than a cute little baby girl sleeper. It’s the first thing I bought for our daughter back in July of 2014, days after finding out a birth mother wanted us to be her parents. This week is National Infertility Awareness Week. From early 2011-2014 we desired and prayed for a child. It was the most difficult season in my life. It was frustrating, isolating, lonely, painful, scary, and depressing.


I don’t like to think back on it often. It’s too painful. Could the Lord not hear our cries for a child? I knew he could, but I didn’t understand why he wouldn’t answer the way we wanted.
Of course now we know the “whys.” Two (or someday more) beautiful reasons why. If you’re in the middle of dealing with infertility, doctor visits, being asked when you’ll start a family, loneliness, and all the “whys,” I am so sorry.


But now I can say something I never thought I would. I am thankful for infertility. Without it, I wouldn’t have had to stop this post 5 times to have a conversation with my 3 year old who never stops talking. 🙃 Or to wipe the spit up off of my 5 month old that somehow spits more out than he ate in the first place.


I am thankful for infertility because it led me to a job that I love more than anything I’ve ever done.  I’m thankful for infertility because our marriage is stronger.


I’m thankful for infertility because it led me to friendships and an unspoken connection with so many women out there. A sisterhood of strong women, mothers, if some only in their hearts.
I’m thankful for infertility because of how God spoke to me during that time and the years to follow. Reminding me that I am never alone and His plans are indeed greater than my own.
I’m thankful because it led me to adoption and embryo adoption and the extended relationships that come with that.


Some of you reading this have been there. Some of you are there now. And some of you will be there one day in the future. If there’s anything I would have done differently if would be to tell someone sooner. Don’t suffer in silence. Reach out. Tell your family. Tell a friend. They may not understand what it’s like, but hopefully you will find support there.


Family members and friends of those facing infertility, don’t be afraid to ask how they’re doing. They may feel like talking, they may not. But ask. And pray. And be understanding. Support them in whatever choice they make. I know this can be difficult for the family members too when things don’t go as planned, but one day you may look back and be thankful for how things turn out also.
Lastly, I’d be happy to listen to anyone in the middle of this struggle and pray with you. 

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